Husbands and Good Men.
Pornography, Rape Academies and the Commodification of Women’s Bodies.
(Trigger Warning: References to Sexual Abuse)
When will our eyelids be “lifted”, so to speak? When will we collectively wake from this slumber that was forced upon us by those we were taught to see as our “protectors” and see them as our predators? When will we realise what is going on? When will we stop seeing marriage as anything other than an atavistic institution, a microcosmos of Patriarchy? (And when will such statements be seen as reality-based rather than radical and subversive?) When will the drug we’ve been force-fed wear off?
CNN has recently uncovered a global rape network that operates on the porn site motherless.com, where men log in to view and post (among other abominations), “sleep content”: 20,000 videos of themselves raping their wives or partners after they have sedated them.
According to the CNN article, the visitors of the site have created a “community”, a brotherhood of nastiness, where they meet “like-minded” men, exchanging tips on how to sedate their partners, what sleeping drugs to use, what doses work the best, where to find them, how to fool them if they suspect anything, how to rape them, how to gaslight them, etc. In their text exchanges, they are actually wishing each other luck in their raping endeavours!
Sandrine Josso, a French lawmaker who was also a victim of a similar kind of sexual abuse, puts it perfectly:“I would even call them an online rape academy, where every subject is taught. There are all the ‘subjects’ and ‘disciplines’ needed to become a good rapist or sexual predator”. The users are also prompting each other, giving instructions on what to do to their unconscious wives, “ordering” specific kinds of abuse perpetrated by the woman’s own husband, becoming her rapist via proxy, so to speak. It’s a place where they are allowed to be open about their depravity and earn money for it, too. How serendipitous for them! Finding their true, male calling: making money while doing what they love best, what they are really good at: abusing a woman who is incapacitated, who can’t object, react, resist, tell them to stop, let alone report them for their crimes! They are living in a world of male violence without consequences, on top of getting paid for it all! What a male fantasy it is! A live streaming of a rape goes for $20 per viewer. That’s all it cost these men to enjoy the spectacle of a woman’s abuse. And there are obviously enough viewers paying this small fee, for these precious-to-women husbands to make a business out of it. Others are just doing it for the fun of it, of course. Or using each other’s videos - instead of money - as currency.
How symbolic is that? Women’s bodies were always used as a commodity in Patriarchy: in marriages, in prostitution, in wars, in religious settings and cults: “Give us this piece of land or we’ll rape your women”, “I’ll give you my daughter, you’ll give me a cow”, “I’ll marry your daughter, and you’ll give me a dowry”, “I’ll give you my little daughter to do as you will, and my debt to you will be considered paid”, “I’ll give you my underage daughter, I’ll marry yours”, “I’ll give you money, I get to rape the women you own like cattle”, etc., etc., etc. No woman had a say in any of it. And countless women still don’t, in many parts of the world where nothing has changed. Where such exchanges among men still take place. Western men are obviously nostalgic for such times and mad that things are (sort of) changing, after thousands of years of all that. “Let’s return to when women were accepting their fate without questioning any of it”, is what this is about. “Let’s shut them up and return to the time when they were seen as nothing but bodies we own. Let’s drug them up and feel like men again!” And they did.
The abusive husbands start by posting an “eyecheck” (they lift their wives’ closed eyelids to show they are unconscious) before proceeding to assault them on camera. The part of the site that is dedicated to the “sleep content” is so popular that it got 62 million hits in just one month (February 2026). Some writers and social media commentators mistakenly reported this as having 62 million users, mind you, which in turn prompted many of the “good men” to protest passionately on social media! They have predictably, somehow bypassed the main issue – the assault of women by their very husbands while they were sedated by them - and focused on the “falsehoods” of media users and feminist writers who mentioned “62 million men” instead of “ 62 million hits”. These “good men” are very concerned with the logistics of the reporting you see, and can always be counted upon to school us about “integrity” and “truth”, expressing their outrage about the misconception. And we have to ask them: how is that comforting? How is that good news? Why would that make a difference? And why are you (the-good-men-who-would-never-ever!) so eager with the technicalities instead of the reality of the story: namely that thousands of men who are drugging their wives, the women with whom they share a life, a home, children, daily meals, the women who are taking care of them and their children, who are cleaning their dirty underwear and God knows what else. The women with whom they’ve shared years and memories and intimacies, and they have raped them in this public manner, have even followed the instructions of other perverts on how to rape them, filmed them and sold their abuse for money to other sick creeps? Why aren’t you equally outraged with the fact that this is so pervasive that a whole business has been built around it, attracting 62 million views in one month alone? Why aren’t you, dear good men, not appalled with that on an equal (at the very least) measure?! Why aren’t you talking about THAT?
If it were 62 million men responsible for 62 million hits by the way, it would mean they went there once, and never returned again, which is in itself horrible, but at least they were horrible once, were disgusted with what they saw, and never made that same mistake. But if it’s 62 million hits, it means a smaller group of men (small being relative term given the number of hits…) went there again and again and again to get their dose of female degradation repeatedly. It means they couldn’t get enough of it. 20,000 “sleep” rape videos viewed 62 million times is anything but reassuring!
Also, dear #GoodMen (and #NotAllMen advocates), comforting us, by saying that you personally would never do such things is not helping. Plus, it is irrelevant. Because 1) we don’t know you and therefore we don’t know whether you would or not. If all those poor women were not able to tell about their own husbands, why should we take your word for it? and 2) it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t change the fact that so many do. Plus, we are not talking about you. This is not about you. Not every single thing is about YOU! And 3) Why would you feel the need to jump in and assure us that you would never rape an unconscious woman? Do you also jump in as eagerly to proclaim your innocence when say, a news story about car theft is mentioned? Do you rush to write in the comments: “I have never stolen any cars, and I would never steal any cars, so here’s your proof that car thefts don’t happen”? Only a car thief would be saying that if you ask me…
Not to mention that bragging about not drugging your wife to rape her, film and then post what you have done on the Internet so that what she has gone through will live forever, is an abominably low bar in the good man scale you have manufactured for yourselves. Expecting us to be impressed for not doing all that to the women with whom you share a life, a home, and children is, in itself, a disgustingly low expectation. And yet men have managed to feel proud of the fact, and that’s just some serious scraping of the bottom of the self-satisfying barrel! And they also have not missed the chance to let us know about it, expecting us to be impressed, be convinced of their innocence and pin a medal on their “ I’m one of the good men “ uniforms. These guys should be either as outraged as we are, or else shut up and leave us be with our pain. With the grim realisations we have been taught to ignore, which are finally catching up with us. The truths about the nature of males we have been conditioned from an early age to pretend we ignore. So that relationships and marriages would happen. And then so that they would not fall apart. So that we would not be seen as outcasts, bitter, deluded man-haters. Or (God-forbid!) feminists!
Besides, the men who never visited this particular site or never drugged their wives are still very likely guilty of being obsessed with pornography, their minds warped by the violence of it. By equally horrific acts they have watched with hungry eyes, an addict’s monomania and a fetishist’s sickness on their phone screens, again and again. And they have too, then very likely turned to their wives and girlfriends and have tried to reenact on their bodies all they have watched. The endless humiliations, the violence, the pain they are yearning to inflict on the bodies and souls of the women in their lives. That yearning that would not (cannot) be there, unless they also saw them as utterly insignificant. Worthless, inferior, deserving neither love nor respect. Only humiliation. The reenactments of murder through choking, the reenactments of rape and torture through binding, flogging and all the rest of it. The female degradation they crave when they spit, urinate, and ejaculate on her face. All the atrocities, in short, contemporary men need and women are forced to endure as the cost of having a relationship with them. All the things that used to fall under the serial killer/psychopath territory, which have now, thanks to porn, been mainstreamed, normalised, and seen as perfectly acceptable forms of sexual behaviour in couples. All the things young women were groomed to accept so that they would not be seen as uptight, non sex-positive or as someone who (God forbid!) “kink-shames”…
This sort of crime, described in the CNN report, is neither new nor limited to such corners of the Internet, of course. It is so pervasive that it has a proper name: DFSA (drug-facilitated sexual assault). Women on campuses all over the USA, the UK and elsewhere were being drugged, in order to be raped while unconscious, with such regularity that in 2015, a video titled “Tea and Consent”
was released by the British police to educate men in the apparently very difficult-to-grasp concept of sexual consent. It used animated stick figures and a cup of tea as an analogy for sex, and attempted to teach guys, among other things, that “unconscious people don’t want tea, can’t answer the question ‘do you want tea?’ because they are unconscious”… Who knew that it needed to be said? Of course, none of the men who do that sort of thing do it because they are unaware of what consent is: they are drugging their victims to bypass the necessity of it!
Bill Gosby was doing it for decades, according to his many (at least 60!) accusers. And so was Sean Combs /Puff Daddy / Diddy: (according to The Washington Post, 120 additional lawsuits were filed against him covering multiple assaults, including “drugged in order to be raped”)
Similarly, the American singer CeeLo Green was also accused of doing the same thing: of drugging a woman who woke up hours later naked in bed with him. The DA declined the rape charges, and even though the singer denied the allegations, he went on to make these suspicious comments on Twitter: “People who have really been raped REMEMBER!!!,” and “If someone is passed out they’ re not even WITH you consciously! so WITH Implies consent”. Meaning if she was unconscious, it wasn’t really rape. Someone ought to remind him (since he is so into semantics and all), that if she couldn’t technically say “No”, she couldn’t say “Yes” either…) After the outrage his comments have caused, he later (like many celebrities in his place) apologised (to his fans, NOT to the woman), and temporarily deleted his Twitter account, claiming that these were not his words or views.
On the same note: the 2026 Netflix documentary The Predator of Seville tells the story of the many victims of Manuel Blanco Vela, a tour guide from Seville, Spain, who used similar methods to drug and attack between 50 - 100 women over several decades. These are some of the well-known cases, but of course, such methods are used by many men out there, which is the reason women are always mindful of their drinks when they go out… And have been for years.
Men’s desire of having access to an unconscious woman’s body is so old and so common apparently that it has become a popular movie trope: in old movies (from the 20s to the 60s at least) whenever a woman was soaking wet, sick with fever, drunk, unconscious for some reason and left in the company of a man (the male lead who we were told was a really “stand up guy”) she would wake up the next day in a different outfit (often in just the top of his PJs, cutifying what is a downright violation), while her clothes, (including her underwear of course) would be drying by the fireplace or some such nonsense. The reply to the perfectly reasonable question “Who undressed me last night?” would predictably be (with a twinkle in his eyes and a sly smile): “Don’t worry, I didn’t look. I’m a gentleman!” (That’s some pretty nifty magic trick right there). Such scenes offered a titillating fantasy to the male viewers, of course and a nice little message to the female ones: women have no agency over their own bodies, if a man is around. And no right to demand such things if they are drunk, sick, incapacitated, etc., (Yes, we KNOW!)
Similalry, in 70s to mid 00s movies, the woman would wake up naked in bed (because, progress), lift the covers to check the state of things, (because she had no recollection of the previous night’s proceedings) and ask: “what happened last night? Did we…?” to which the “good” man who had undressed her without her consent, would reply “No! No! I’m not that kind of guy, you were out” or something similar. Expecting her (and us, the viewer), much like all those social media #goodmen, to be in awe of his virtue. Because not being raped while unconscious is apparently a sign of a real prince: “I could rape you, yet I didn’t. I just oggled, handled your bits, and undressed you without your knowledge, so go ahead and be impressed now…”, is what is implied. Interestingly, her question is “Did we…?”, not “Did YOU?” which would have been accurate given she was passed out. But in romcoms, much like in real life, we are not supposed to blame men for what they do to women. The blame must - at the very least - be shared! Even when she is unconscious….
Giving date rape drugs or ecstasy to women to assault them without their knowledge, or getting them drunk on alcohol for similar reasons, is so widespread that it is openly celebrated by many rap and hip hop musicians. In their songs, they reveal that they are doing it as a way of taking revenge on a woman who refused them, as a way to “benefit” / guide other men (as in: if she says “No”, this is what you need to do…) and of course, just for the “fun” of it: they do it because they can. Because it feels like they are in control when what they are dealing with is a vacated piece of meat (which is how they view women anyway).
Rick Ross: “Put Molly all in her champagne, she ain’t even know it. I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it.”
DJ Khaled: “And when she on the molly she a zombie, She think we Clyde and Bonnie, but it’s more like Whitney Bobby”
“Always on Time” by Ja Rule ft. Ashanti:“I got two or three hoes for every V and I keep ‘em drugged up off that ecstasy”
“The Saga” by Anatii ft. AKA: I took this girl out on a school day
And I drop her ass off at UJ…
I think this mami got potential
I think this molly got me bustin’ out the friend zone
Drop in the champagne like a Mentos
We in the lobby but your body is a temple
Blame It” by Jamie Foxx ft. T-Pain: Got you in the zone (zone)
Blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol
…Just one more round and you’re down, I know it
Fill another cup up
Feelin’ on yo butt, what?
You don’t even care now
Pop That” by French Montana ft. Rick Ross, Drake, and Lil Wayne: “We pop a Molly, she bust it open,”
“Molly Cyrus” by Kid Ink (2012): “Molly got your girlfriend dancing for the camera,”
“Lucky Ass Bitch” by Mac Miller (2011): “Molly pills, orange juice got the bitch wired,”
Also Lil Wayne (for example, in “Roman Reloaded”) and Juicy J (for example, in “Deez Bitches Rollin”) often sing about drug use as a necessary component of sex, for the women around them to be “turnt up”,etc.
Not only is there obviously no remorse, shame, or guilt about doing such things to women (and girls), or a realisation that what they are doing is wrong, but they consider them a cause for bragging! As another way of proving their “masculinity” and asserting their “power” over females! (Never mind that the key component for asserting this masculinity is for women to be passed out, of course)
It is mind blowing to think that such songs with obvious references to rape (and sure, others even far worse) were allowed to be released by record companies, and were okayed by an army of men in charge (producers, managers, distributors, marketing executives, advertisers, radio stations, record store chains, streaming services, award show producers, etc. - because, yes, some of these songs went on to not only earn millions for their creators, but music industry awards too!) It’s just beyond words that not a single one of them at any stage of the process has ever had any doubt about whether or not this is OK! And it tells us all we need to know about how women are viewed in our culture.
The CNN article also reveals the stories of some of the few (out of the many) women who realised what their husbands were doing. Those poor women had to come to terms with the unspeakable pain of discovering they were being treated like a piece of meat by the man whom they trusted and loved, and on top of that, come to terms with the realisation that he not only betrayed their trust, abused them publicly, gaslighted them for years (dismissing them when they complained about unexplained pains, weird bruises, headaches, brain fog, loss of memory, etc), but also made money out of their abuse. And that there are videos of their suffering out there, being viewed, shared by God knows how many other creeps and they can do nothing about it. They also have to find a way to protect their children from the reality of what their father is, and somehow find the courage to report him to the police, and be miraculously believed! (one of them was told she is just “pretending to be asleep” for example). To also navigate their social circle once this comes out, and hear them blame her (“how could you not know”?) or endure the comments that will inevitably come, revealing what we all (men and women!) think marriage is: a place where a woman’s sexual abuse must be endured, as long it is the husband who is doing it: “but he is your husband!” she will be told when she will look for comfort in friends and family members. Meaning: “he has the right to your body, doesn’t he? Isn’t that what you signed for by saying “I do”?
Married women are not supposed to have agency over their bodies anyway. Their bodies (much like their time, their labour) are rightfully (often by law!) not theirs. Marital consent has always been a blurry thing that even married women would argue has no place in their bedroom (which is the very thing that lies at the heart of Patriarchy and the reason why marriage was created). Even to this day, many married women think it is their “duty” to never say “no”, as much as men think it is their ”right” to never hear it… Rape is seen as what happens in alleyways by strangers, not your own husband, they were taught, and will be reminded. Consent is a notion that can be manipulated to fit an abuser’s parameters after all. Especially if the abuser is the victim’s husband. (Marital Rape is very hard to prove even in countries that took measures to protect women from the reality of it, while “conjugal duty” still carries the “assumption of permanent consent” - see below: Footnotes1)
They will also be told: “well, you were asleep at least”, meaning since you didn’t feel anything, it doesn’t matter... Which is exactly how her rapists feel, and interestingly, how the medical establishment in the US (possibly elsewhere as well), is viewing this matter: gynaecological examinations and other unnecessary gynaecological procedures are being performed on unsuspecting women who are under anaesthesia due to unrelated surgery, so that trainee doctors can practice on their bodies, without their approval or knowledge! Because what are women, if not vaginas and wombs, soulless body parts in the service of men, right?
This porn site is merely the tip of the iceberg, of course. This platform is just one of its kind, and it is not even hidden inside the hideous belly of the dark web, where such things abound, but it was out there openly for anyone to find. After the CNN report, the “Zzz” group (the section of the motherless.com website dedicated to swapping advice on how to do all that) was taken down. But given the interest men have apparently in such matters, there is no doubt that many other “rape academies” will replace it. “Coco”, the platform that was involved in the Dominique Pelicot case (the French man who was drugging his own wife for years, raping her on camera and inviting in their home at least 50 other men to do the same), is also now closed, thankfully, but this hardly solves the problem. What that means is that its closure has created a space in the “raping your wife porn market” that some other nasty platform has filled… Once one of the heads of the Lernaean Hydra is cut, another grows in its place… “Displaced” users just go in search of other nasty sites that exist and will exist unless something is done on a global scale and in a permanent way. But of course, this is too much to ask. Porn sites are gigantic money makers, and are, as a rule, untouchable after all, as they operate outside the law, and they can decide what is posted on them without restrictions imposed by anyone other than their own rules. US “safe harbour” protections, in particular, were created to shield platform owners from “direct liability for their users’ uploads”: as long as the criminal-activity-related videos are posted by their users, not them, they can’t be prosecuted. This is what the Internet has gifted these savvy businessmen: the opportunity to profit from the male need for women’s and children’s abuse with impunity. And this is what they, in turn, offer to their many clients: an endless supply of fetishistic pleasure, where there are no legal consequences. And the opportunities to become pornographers themselves! What a world!
Parenthetically, there is something particularly disconcerting about the name of the porn site: “motherless”! Maybe it implies some weird, sick shit I’m not aware of (and have no intention to research frankly), but I can’t help but think there might be something symbolic about that. Given that we now live in a world in which even the definitions of “woman” and “mother” are being taken away from us, by the porn-addled Trans community, the men who have colonised the terms and have somehow managed to convince so many of us that using them in relation to actual females is a hostile act akin to violence. (Further proof Trans identifying men are not real women - in case the penis was not a clue: the violence with which we, the actual women, are akin to, is hardly just linguistic…) Maybe the name hints at a secret male wish to live in a motherless world, a place where all the women are sexually available and have no other roles, who knows? Nothing would surprise us…
After the Epstein files, after the way the trafficking rings were handled by authorities in the UK (prioritizing the optics of the matter, rather than the pain of the victims), after the hushing of the paedophilia in the Catholic Church, and the horrific things women and little girls are taught to endure in cults, and in countless fundamentalist (and non-fundamentalist…) churches: Christian, Muslim, Jewish (Yes! In ALL of them!), or what statistics that reveal the scale of the problem tell us, the message is sent from everywhere: we don’t matter. Our bodies are not our own. Our pain is insignificant. We now again live in a world that teaches men that being a predator is not only acceptable, but it also won’t cost them a thing. Nothing can come between men and their sexual needs. No laws, no common decency, no morality, no mercy. Men who are accused of assaulting women escape justice. Those who have been found guilty of sexual abuse in Courts pay no consequences; celebrities, entertainers, men who have been in a notorious sex trafficker’s inner circle, go back to their lucrative careers, they govern companies, global economies, and entire countries.
(A woman can be dragged to court, lose her job, her reputation, for just saying that a man wearing a dress is still a man, but paedophiles and rapists face no consequences whatsoever! How telling is that?)
The knowledge that such crimes against women go unpunished leaves an impact on how men think of us and treat us. It sends a message about our lack of worth in the eyes of the law and man-made systems of authority. How could it not? And of course, it leaves a mark on us too. It amplifies the already loud voices that tell us nobody matters but men. Children, teenagers, and women can (and are!) abused with impunity. For as long as those who hold the power are men, this will continue to happen because perpetrators and the men who are supposed to keep them in check, recognise in each other the same urges, the same need to live in a world where there is no punishment for such desirable things to them. This is what Patriarchy is about. What men are. What they prioritise: Erections. Ejaculations. Power. End of story. This is what they seek in women (and apparently children). This is who, what they are.
But much like those poor women, we are asleep. Unaware of the scale of it all, yet paying the price daily. When will the scales fall from our eyes?
When will our eyelids be “lifted”, so to speak? When will we collectively wake from this slumber that was forced upon us by those we were taught to see as our “protectors” and see them as our predators? When will we realise what is going on? When will we stop seeing marriage as anything other than an atavistic institution, a microcosmos of Patriarchy? (And when will such statements be seen as reality-based rather than radical and subversive?) When will the drug we’ve been force-fed wear off?
When will we wake to what they are doing to us? How many clues will it take? How many more victims, how many more lives of children and women destroyed, before we see the reality, before we dare to name it, before we take measures and realise that the cost of having a man in our life is vastly greater than what he can ever offer? (Yes, yes, NotAllMen but hardly enough to make a difference... Yes, yes, NotAllMen, but always men. So many, my God! So many, MANY men!)
The truth is, there is no public space in which our safety is guaranteed. We used to, at least have public toilets as the last sanctuary. The one place where men’s needs are not prioritised over ours. A place to take a breath, to just be, for say 5 minutes, free from the possibility of male invasion of our space, but even that is being taken away from us… How symbolic is that?! What the “rape academy” has revealed is that there is no place where women can be safe, in the public OR private sphere! Not even in their home. This is what these stories tell us. And they are added to the statistics about domestic violence and sexual assault by husbands that are happening daily all over the world to women of all ages. Even those of us who have not gone through all that (though who can tell, right? All these drugged women certainly didn’t. Most of them, still don’t!),
we can all identify with these women. And with any woman who was followed, stalked, harassed, raped, assaulted, or made to feel unsafe because of a creep. Each victim of male violence is our sister. Her pain familiar to us all. Every story of abuse triggers something in us. In our body. In our nervous system. In that dark place, we pretend it doesn’t exist so that we can function. In that place where we keep trauma hidden, locked, so that it won’t spread in every cell, and eat us whole.
A senior German police official, Dirk Peglow, has recently caused quite the outrage when, while talking about exactly that: the dramatic increases in serious offences against women (rape, sexual assault, other severe sexual crimes and homicides), he has done the unthinkable: he articulated a well-known truth that is still a taboo of gigantic proportions. He said that “women face a significantly higher risk of psychological and physical violence within relationships” and that his advice for women in terms of their safety is: “Better not get into a relationship with a man.” Liberal feminists (who are always dependable in revealing their need to use whataboutisms and “pro-women” sounding arguments that are nothing but a desperate attempt to appease and please men) have framed this as a “shifting of the blame towards the victims” and as an attempt to “limit women’s freedom instead of addressing male violence”. To this I say: finally, a guy who speaks the truth! (Hats off to you Sir, for doing more with that one phrase than all the thousands and thousands of words social media “good men” and Liberal “feminists” have written in their attempts to educate us on the subject!) This is not a shifting of the blame towards the victims, but (refreshingly!) on the perpetrators: this is a rare, clear and finally truthful admission that these sorts of crimes are not random, and also that the costs of getting involved with men are much too high for women these days. As all these poor wives who ended up drugged, raped and prostituted via the Internet could testify. Or as is revealed by the 316 million women and girls globally (aged 15 and older), who were, according to UN statistics, subjected to physical or sexual violence by a husband or intimate partner in 2024 alone, and the 50,000 women and girls who were killed by their husbands or intimate partners at the same year.
Statistics have been revealing it for ages: the most dangerous person in a woman’s life is her husband, and the most dangerous person in a child’s life, is a stepfather (though this is now, due to the pervasive influence of “incest porn”, closely followed by a brother!)
Think about that for a minute! Whichever way you look at it: it’s (more often than not) the men, women and children love and trust. The men in their family. The men with whom they share their lives. And how fucked up is that?!
When will we stop the #NotAllMen nonsense, as if this changes all that? When will we collectively face it, and much like the aforementioned police officer, be brave enough to just come out and say it already: for so much of the suffering that’s out there,
MEN are the problem!
France has only recently (2026), abolished the legal concept of “conjugal duty” (marital sexual duty) - in part, due of the worldwide impact caused by the Pelicot case. This has sparked strong pushback from conservative groups that supported the view that “conjugal duty” was the very basis of the traditional marital model. (in short, the main reason men get married…)
43 countries have no specific legislation criminalising marital rape, which often stems from a legal or cultural assumption of permanent consent or “conjugal duty” within marriage. In 19 countries, marital rape is not considered rape.
In the US, marital rape was criminalised in all 50 states by 1993, though some states still have “loopholes” that treat marital sexual assault differently from non-marital assault.
Over 150 nations have criminalised marital rape, which serves as a de facto law against “conjugal duty.” Despite these legal reforms, “marital duty” is still globally considered the cornerstone of marriage, and even in countries that have abolished it, it is still being used by husbands as a rightful right within marriage and as a defence in divorce cases, against maintenance or custody claims, and as a tool to force women to return to unhappy or abusive marriages.
Refusal of sexual relations is still legally treated as “a breach of marital obligation” particularly for women, even in countries that have abolished “conjugal duty.” In two-thirds of states, you can still choose to file for an “at-fault” divorce, and cite refusal of conjugal rights as”abandonment,” or “cruelty”.